Talking about sex can be difficult for Black people. But talking about problems with sex can be nearly impossible. Black body shaming, religious beliefs, and a focus on prevention rather than pleasure can all contribute to why many Black people choose to avoid the topic of sex whenever they can.
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That’s where a sex educator can help. They can help you get to the root of any cultural, social or emotional factors that are getting in the way of you getting what you want between the sheets. If you want to spice things up in your relationship but don’t know where to start, we’ve rounded up some Black sex therapists and educators who are helping Black people rediscover their sexuality and experience the pleasure they deserve. You can thank us later.
Ericka Hart
Ericka Hart, M. Ed is a sex educator, model and activist. As a breast cancer survivor, she offers a unique perspective on the role of sexuality and sexual pleasure for cancer patients from diagnosis through the course of their treatment process. A queer Black femme, Hart is also an advocate for racial and social justice and laser-focused on creating safer spaces for members of the LGBTQIA+ community.
Tyomi Morgan-Najieb
Tyomi Morgan-Najieb is a certified sexologist, pleasure coach and founder of The Cowgirl Workout, a program designed to help women connect with their bodies and increase the possibilities of pleasure in the bedroom. Her YouTube channel is not for the bashful. It’s loaded with videos she created to teach people how to have better sex, including how to kiss and the best way to move your body in various positions to experience maximum pleasure. Her sex ed blog, Glamerotica 101 is a great resource for answers to the questions you’ve been too afraid to ask.
Dr. Donna Oriowo
Dr. Donna Oriowo is a Nigerian-American therapist who specializes in the mental and sexual health of Black women. And with a double master’s degree in Social Work and Education for Human Sexuality and a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality, she’s got the education to back it up. As a Black woman, she is fully aware of the impact race has on self-esteem as well as mental and sexual health. Her workbook, Cocoa Butter and Hair Grease: A Self Love Journey Through Hair and Skin, is designed to help readers work through hangups they may have about hair and skin and learn to love on themselves a little more. Check her out on Instagram for amazing reminders to love yourself and the skin you’re in.
Myisha Battle
Myisha Battle has been helping people with their sex lives since she was a peer counselor in middle school. Today, as a certified member of the World Association of Sex Coaching (yes, that’s a thing), she focuses on helping people make better sex a part of their life. A self-described feminist, Battle’s work focuses on eliminating body insecurity and keeping the connection with your partner strong. Check out her Intro Into Kink class on allbodies.com for help telling your partner what turns you on.
Dalychia Saah and Rafaella Fiallo
Dalychia Saah and Rafaella Fiallo want sexuality to be less of a taboo topic for Black folks. So they created Afrosexology as a space for people to find answers to any of their questions concerning Black sexuality. Whether you want to learn how to get in touch with yourself (literally) or spice things up with your partner, there is something for everyone. You can even sign up to get their pleasure playlist, complete with music that is guaranteed to get things going in the bedroom.
